THIS Wellbeing
讲座内容回顾
主题:习惯养成及有效沟通
Forming Good Habits and Communicating Effectively
【很多父母都会觉得孩子身上有很多“问题”需要解决,但是由于忽略了问题产生的实质以及其规律,所以“解决”起来往往困难重重。】
【Many parents feel that their children have a lot of “problems” that need to be solved, but it is often difficult to “solve” them because the essence of the problems and their patterns are overlooked.】
问题通过看向实质解决
The problem is solved by looking to the essence.
1. 从问题入手 Starting from the problem
2. 到达实质 Reaching to the essence
3. 了解规律 Understand internal laws
4. 消除问题 Solving problems
【谈论到孩子的身上的问题时,家长需要做的是将问题分类,哪些是必须要进行干预的,哪些可以适当放过的,哪些是需要引导的。】
【What parents need to do when thinking about the problems of their children is to categorize the problems, what has to be intervened, what can be left alone appropriately, and what needs to be guided.】.
将问题归类 Classify problems
1. 必要 Necessarily
明确:边界即保护 Clear: Boundary means protection
2. 重要 Important
渐进:内在力量,克服脆弱
Progressive: Inner power, overcoming fragility
3. 可要 Optional
自主:适当舒适区
Empathy: Appropriate comfort zone
【所以在小学阶段,父母与孩子之间的沟通,最重要的主题就是帮助他们积攒内在力量,克服脆弱】
【The most important theme of communication between parents and children in primary school is to help them build inner strength and overcome vulnerability.】
生活中常见的脆弱表现
Common Fragile Behaviors in Life
1. 暴躁,情绪化 Irritable, emotional
2. 容忍度低,评判 Low tolerance and always judging
3. 原则性强,张弛力不足 Strong principle and lack of flexibility
4. 妥协,总想息事宁人 Compromising, not facing the problems
5. 辩解,这不是我的错 Justifying, it’s not my fault
6. 抱怨,不愿意承担责任 Complaining and unwilling to take responsibility
【中学以及高中阶段,根据马斯洛的需要层次理论,与孩子的沟通不能只停留在低级的需求,要从更高级的需求出发。在思维上启发孩子,帮助孩子调整自己的身心状态,才能更好的面对压力和挑战。】
【In middle school as well as high school, according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Theory, communication with children should not stop at the lower level of needs, but start from the higher level of needs. Inspire your child in thinking and help him or her to adjust his or her physical and mental state in order to better face stress and challenges.】
沟通的最高层面就是最低层面。
The highest level of communication is the lowest level.
沟通的目标:改变身心状态。
The goal of communication: to change the state of mind and body.
Let’s look forward to
more wellbeing activities and parent Lectures in the future and work together for the growth of our students!
文字 Writing | Laura Zhang,Mercy Xu
排版 Editing | Mercy Xu
图片 Pictures | Fontaine Yang,Mercy Xu
审核 Auditing | Scott Pare, Toni Dong, Wenping Li
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