Dr. Hua Chun’s talk on the family origin was very inspiring. I believe we all know the importance of the family origin. However, 1. how does the family of origin actually have an underlying shaping effect on a person? 2. is it possible to consciously change and iterate the shaping of a person’s family of origin to achieve better results for the next generation? 3. Is it possible to observe and understand the driving force of the family of origin under our own subjective consciousness, and to co-create the desired influence of the family of origin with the current other half? These questions of mine are provided with some very enlightening answers from Dr. Hua Chun.
My wife and I have been having a lot of discussions about family origins lately. One phenomenon we’ve noticed is that when we read autobiographies. The vast majority of a person’s autobiography is about him/her and the people he/she met in his/her life and the stories that happened. From this perspective, a person’s life is the sum of all his/her relationships with other people. This perspective allows us to look at him/her outside of the individual and thus get a more calm and detached account. For example, when my wife and I discuss my parents, instead of jumping into the same conclusive conclusions as before, we begin to discuss what happened to my parents, their parents, the people of his/her time, and the relationships that arose. The more detailed these relationships became, the more we found a way to look at the family origin that our parents brought to us without the binary of “good and bad” and to look at their undertones more peacefully. In the finer, denser, and more detailed relationships between people, we understand our parents’ color, our own color, and the color of our loved ones, which is difficult and worthwhile. Thanks to Dr. Hua Chun.