升学分享交流会〡与家长的心得共享

5月31日下午，清华附中国际部和家委会联合举办的升学分享交流会在暖和阳光下揭开序幕。本次分享会分三场，分为别小升初分享会、初升高分享会和大学升学分享会，学校主讲人和分享的家长、学生嘉宾如下：

分享会由学术校长、中学部主任以及家长代表们从学校和家长的角度，介绍不同学段要做好的过渡衔接的准备；而大学升学分享会则特别邀请了毕业生及家长为大家分享大学升学的经验。

带着殷切期盼的心情不光是家长们，我们欣喜地发现有小学生、初中生也跟着家长的脚步进入会场。再次感受到学校的魔力，让孩子们的内驱力可以这么自然地在学校中产生。

以下为家长们参加分享会后的心得感想，同样精彩，一起来看看吧!

罗睿〡G4 Alan妈妈

中学部主任Ms. Dieu-Anh Nguyen向家长们展示了初中课表与小学课表的相似点与不同点。相似点是教学周为6天一轮；而不同的是，Homeroom时间只有10分钟，剩下的时间需要孩子们走班到各个科目的教室中去上课，一堂课的时长变成了80分钟。

中学部主任也介绍了初中课程的复杂性，指出学生需要应对11门不同科目的学习和成绩评定，从A到F打分。除此之外，她还介绍了孩子们应该如何用Power School管理自己的课程和作业。

之后，有3位中学部的家长给大家做了分享。他们一致认为，学生需要学会合理规划自己的时间（因为一旦错过作业的截止时间，成绩会得到F），以此培养孩子们的自主学习能力。孩子们要确保既完成作业任务，又有足够的休息和课外活动时间，因为学校中学部也有丰富的社团活动。

除了时间管理，家长们还分享了孩子步入初中后家长应该关注的几点:

• 和孩子们拉近距离：孩子们会逐渐和家长有距离，家长应该学习如何有技巧的和青春期的孩子沟通，拉近彼此的距离，更好地了解孩子。

• 阅读能力的重要性也被强调：但是上中学后，由于课业任务增加，孩子们的阅读时间被挤压，要充分帮助孩子做好时间管理，多阅读。

• 社交方面: 家长们分享了这一时期朋友对孩子们的重要性，并鼓励学生们主动寻求同伴，并能够与老师和家长保持良好的沟通，寻求帮助。

  
  

感谢学校和初中部的家长们的分享，让我们对孩子在初中阶段将要面对的改变有了一个认识。我也想努力向几位家长学习，做好迎接家里有青春期孩子的准备，与孩子一同进步。

卢淳〡G7 Iris妈妈

清华附中国际部的学术校长Patrick Smith先生首先做了题为“初升高学生面临的机会和挑战“的报告。他指出，高中生活与初中生活有很多不同之处，高中学习是学分制导向的，25学分是高中毕业的最低要求，但从更利于大学申请的角度，学校推荐学生修28个学分。GPA不是申请大学的唯一标准，但是一个重要标准。在保证学业的前提下，学生需要参与各项课外活动，学习AP课程，参加标化考试和准备大学申请，他们的生活会变得非常忙碌，面临的压力也会增加。

因此，时间管理和高效学习的能力尤为重要。学生需要学会使用时间管理工具，合理安排作业、考试及各类项目的时间；制定一个学习计划，并坚定地执行，拖延会加剧压力，并且完成质量不会很高；提高课堂学习的专注度；勤记笔记是理解新知识、强化记忆的好方法；课堂上有不懂的地方及时提问，课外也可以向老师和同学寻求帮助；打造无干扰的学习环境，学习时尽量远离电子产品。

Patrick Smith校长最后强调，高中学习要“以终为始”，高中生首先需要思考未来自己想成为什么样的人，如何才能实现这个目标，然后制定出阶段性的计划并落实执行。

10W Julia和12P Ivy的妈妈从培养理科生和艺术生的角度分享了孩子的成长心得。她很赞同“以终为始”的观点，远大的理想与目标非常重要，以此为方向，可以构建出清晰的四年高中生活全景图。她提到，学校开设了很多AP课程，学生需要以取得好成绩为前提，权衡选多少，怎么选，可与高年级学长们多交流多请教，获取更多帮助。对于理科生而言，参加竞赛和科研成果很重要；对于艺术生而言，广泛涉猎和作品集很重要。

9W Angelin在6年级从清华附小转入清华附中国际部。她妈妈指出，孩子从公立体系转到国际体系，最初很不适应，不爱参与课堂讨论，这时候需要家长的支持和鼓励，帮助孩子尽快融入。让孩子广泛探索，找寻自己所热爱的方向，这样孩子才会有内驱力。青春期的孩子既要面对青春期的烦恼，又要面对学业重担，压力很大，保持自己的兴趣爱好可以让他们缓解压力。

10W Sarah的妈妈在小学和初中阶段对孩子完全放手，但是她表示，不管家长之前如何放手，在高中阶段，家长需要参与到孩子的学习生活中，在关键时刻给予孩子支持和建议。培养良好的学习习惯很重要，家长需要把握好引导的度，让孩子自己去寻找兴趣点，不要在孩子对未来一片空白的时候给孩子设限，不要用家长的兴趣代替孩子的兴趣。学校拥有非常强大的资源，学生和家长们可以利用好这个平台，资源共享，助力未来成长。

孙莉〡G10 Hugh妈妈

接下来的重头戏: 大学升学分享会。今年毕业生共46名，收到200多份offer，超过160万美元的奖学金。这份成果是充实甜美的，是属于毕业生及家长们坚持努力的回报。相信在校的学弟妹们也与有荣焉，将持续努力不懈地往目标的路上前进。

很多家长和学生参加了2023优秀毕业生升学分享会，看到被名校录取的几位高材生和他们家长分享的经验和建议，相信学弟学妹和家长们一定受益匪浅。

印象颇深的是被MIT录取的Victor的爸爸，把国内高考比作“鲤鱼跳龙门”，把海外升学比作“孔雀开屏”的过程，形象生动。他说申请季，面对巨大的压力，父母和孩子首先要全面考虑，想清楚自己要什么，是安全、健康、快乐……尤其对申请大学没有帮助但仍然想做的事情，就去做，不必很功利，要不忘初心，Have fun!

被康奈尔和伯克利录取的Devin形容自己是“普娃”，ED1和2都被NYU和EMORY拒（其实塞翁失马，焉知非福），因成绩不理想而没有提交标化，他指出这个时候不要和同学去比，但要和同学、好朋友聊，排解压力和焦虑。

女儿被卡耐基梅隆、莱斯大学录取的荆老师提出的金句是Less is more。她建议学生在9年级时不必着急学托福，专注学习校内的英语课，加强阅读与写作即可；考试无须多次，避免浪费时间和精力。

被伯克利录取的Wenny，给自己确定了四个方向：Global studies, Public policy, International relations, Communication/journalism, 并列出9～12年级的timeline，给人文、社科方向的学弟学妹有很强的借鉴意义。

总结下来，作为学生，对于兴趣爱好要有执着的追求和大量的投入，展示自己“孔雀开屏”时的每一片靓丽的羽毛；作为父母，要给孩子强有力的支持，帮助他们做选择，但也要给他们空间，不传达自己的焦虑和压力。

几个小时的分享会，干货满满。毕业生感谢学校的辛勤培养和老师们的无私奉献。我们也对未来充满憧憬和希望！

经过这次分享嘉宾经验传承，无私共享，分享会在家长们同心希望孩子在求学路上，健康成长并携手走向心中理想学校的目标中圆满结束。

没有参加小升初、初升高分享会的家长，Ms.Dieu-Anh Nguyen 温馨提醒，在秋季开学后，小学部、初中部、高中部会有更详细的课程说明会面向各位家长，由各科老师进行简报，欢迎家长踊跃参加。

On May 31st, Tsinghua International School and their Parent Council jointly organized and hosted three sharing sessions – transitioning from primary to middle school, transitioning from middle to high school, and a college entrance sharing session. We very much appreciate the insights and sincere words of advice our school speakers, parents and students who had shared with us.

In the  From Primary to Middle school and from Middle to High School transition sessions, THIS academic principals, secondary school directors and parent representatives introduced key considerations and components that signify the shift of grades from the school’s and the parent’s perspectives.  The college admission session invited graduating seniors and parents of the Class of 2023 to share their experiences.

Parents as well as primary and middle school students came the sessions with great interest. We could feel the magic of the school culture that allows students’ internal motivation to be so naturally generated.

Let’s check out the wonderful insights from the parents who attended the sharing session!

By Ms. Luo Rui, G4 Alan’s mom

Ms. Dieu-Anh Nguyen, secondary director, showed parents the similarities and differences between the middle school schedule and the primary schedule. The similarity is that the school week is 6 days long; the difference is that the Homeroom time is only 10 minutes, and the rest of the time the children have to go to each classroom for each subject, and the length of a class becomes 80 minutes.

Ms. Dieu-Anh also described the complexity of the middle school curriculum, noting that students need to deal with 11 different subjects and grade them on a scale from A to F. In addition to that, she also introduced how students should manage their lessons and assignments with Power School.

After that, 3 parents from the middle school division shared their experiences to the group. They all agreed that students need to learn to plan their time wisely as a way to develop the students independent learning skills. Students need to make sure they can complete their homework assignments, have enough time for rest and participate in extracurricular activities, as the school has an abundance of clubs and activities.

In addition to time management, parents shared a few things that parents should focus on as their children enter middle school.

• Be closer to the children: Children will gradually distance themselves from their parents, and parents should learn how to communicate with their adolescent children tactfully to get closer to each other and understand them better.

  
  

• The importance of reading skills: After primary school, students’ reading time is squeezed due to increased classroom tasks, and it is important to fully help them manage their time well and read more.

  
  

• Socialization: Parents shared the importance of friendship to their children during this time and encouraged students to actively seek out peers and be able to maintain good communication with teachers and parents for help.

  
  

I would like to thank the school and the parents of the middle school for sharing their thoughts on the changes our children will face in the future. I will learn from the experiences shared and be prepared to welcome having an adolescent child at home and make progress together with my child.

By Ms. Chun Lu, G7 Iris’s mom

Mr. Patrick Smith, the Academic Principal of THIS, gave a presentation entitled “Opportunities and Challenges for Middle School Students”. He pointed out that high school life is different from middle school and is credit oriented. 25 credits is the minimum requirement for high school graduation, but the school recommends 28 credits for college applications. With all the extracurricular activities, AP classes, standardized tests, and college applications, students’ lives can become very busy and stressful as they keep up with their academics.

Therefore, time management and the ability to study efficiently are especially important. Students need to learn to use time management tools to organize their time wisely for assignments, exams and various projects –

• Make a study plan and execute it firmly;

• Procrastination will increase stress and the quality of completion will not be high;

• Improve concentration in class

• Diligent note-taking is a good way to understand new knowledge and strengthen memory;

• Ask questions in class if they do not understand something;

• Seek help from teachers and classmates outside of class; and

• Create a distraction-free learning environment and stay away from electronic devices as much as possible when studying.

Principal Patrick Smith concluded by emphasizing that high school students need to start with the end in mind. They need to think about what they want to be in the future and how they can achieve this goal, then make a plan and implement it.

10W Julia and 12P Ivy’s mother shared her experience of raising her children from the perspective of science-majored and art-majored students. She agreed with the idea of “beginning with the end in mind”, and that it is important to have a vision and goals to build a clear picture of the four years of high school life. She mentioned that there are many AP courses in the school, and students need to make good grades as a prerequisite, weigh how many to take and how to take them, and talk to seniors to get more help. For science-majored students, participation in competitions and research are important; for art-majored students, a wide range of subjects and a portfolio are important.

9W Angelin transferred from Tsinghua Primary School to THIS in 6th grade. Angelin’s mother pointed out that her child was very uncomfortable at first when she moved from the public system to the international education system and did not like to participate in class discussions.  She needed parents’ support and encouragement to help her child integrate as soon as possible. Let the child explore extensively and find a direction they are passionate about so that they will be internally driven. Adolescents are under a lot of pressure to deal with both the worries of puberty and the burden of school, and having their hobbies and interests can help them relieve the pressure.

10W Sarah’s mother was completely hands-off with her children in primary and middle school.  But she said that no matter how hands-off you were before high school, parents need to be involved in their children’s academic lives and give them support and advice at key moments. It is important to cultivate good study habits, and parents need to provide adequate guidance and let their children find their own interests. Not to set limits for their children when they have a blank slate for the future, and not to replace their children’s interests with those of their parents. The school actually has very powerful resources, and students and parents can use this platform to share resources and help their future growth.

By Ms.Li Sun，G10 Hugh’s mom

This year, the 46 THIS seniors received over 200 offers with more than 1.6 million dollars in scholarships. This achievement is a testament to the perseverance and efforts of the graduates and parents. I believe that the younger students are also proud and will continue to strive hard towards their goals.

Many parents and students attended the 2023 Outstanding Graduates’ College Admission Sharing Session, where they benefited greatly from the experiences and advice shared by our graduating seniors,  who were admitted to their dream universities , and their parents.

One memorable speaker was Victor’s father, whose child was admitted to MIT. He likened the Chinese college entrance examination vividly to the “carp leaping over the Dragon Gate”(a traditional Chinese saying) and the process of studying abroad to the “peacock opening its feathers”. He mentioned that during the application season, faced with immense pressure, parents and students should first consider their comprehensive needs and think clearly about what they want, such as safety, health, happiness, and so on. They should also pursue things they want to do that may not directly benefit their university applications, without being too pragmatic, and never forget their original intention of having fun!

Devin, who was accepted by Cornell and Berkeley, described himself as an “ordinary person”. He was rejected by NYU and Emory in both ED1 and ED2 (sometimes a setback may turn out to be a blessing in disguise).  He had not submit his standardized test scores due to less-than-ideal grades. He pointed out that at this stage, it is important not to compare oneself with classmates. Instead, chat with them along with good friends to relieve stress and anxiety.

Ms. Jing, whose daughter was admitted to Carnegie Mellon and Rice University, shared the golden advice: “Less is more.” She suggested that students in the 9th grade need not rush to study for the TOEFL exam. Instead, they should focus on English classes at school, particularly reading and writing. It is not necessary to take the test multiple times which could be a waste of time and energy.

Wenny, who was admitted to Berkeley, set four areas of focus for herself: global studies, public policy, international relations, and communication/journalism. She listed a timeline for grades 9 to 12, providing valuable reference for younger students interested in humanities and social sciences.

In summary, as students, it is important to pursue interests with persistence and invest a significant amount of effort, showcasing every shining point. As parents, it is essential to provide strong support to your children, help them make choices, but also give them space and not convey your own anxieties and pressures.

After the sharing session, filled with practical advice, the graduating seniors expressed gratitude for the school’s cultivation and the selfless dedication of their teachers. We are filled with anticipation and hope for the future!

The session successfully concluded with parents united in their hopes for their children’s healthy growth and journey toward their dream schools.

For parents who did not attend all the sharing sessions, Ms. Dieu-Anh Nguyen kindly reminded them that after the fall semester begins, there will be more detailed curriculum briefings for parents, conducted by subject teachers. Parents are always encouraged to participate actively.