Wellbeing|看向问题实质,建立有效沟通,家校合力助力身心健康

By 2023年09月26日


THIS Wellbeing 家长讲座

杨旭晨老师:习惯养成及有效沟通


Wellbeing


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9月19日,清华附中国际部心理辅导团队邀请到了心理专家、国家认证心理咨询师杨旭晨老师,为国际部小学和中学部的家长们分别带来了两场主题为“习惯养成和有效沟通”的家庭教育讲座。杨旭晨老师分别从小学生和中学生不同年龄阶段和成长阶段的角度,剖析亲子关系中难点和痛点,为如何帮助孩子建立良好的习惯养成和建立家长与孩子间的有效沟通渠道,提供了全新的认识和实用的方法。在座的家长们在杨旭晨老师切中要点的原理分析和实际案例中受到启发,受益匪浅。





国际部心理辅导团队的Dr. Gerald Anthony(小学心理辅导员兼身心健康协调员)和Ms. Laura Zhang老师(中学心理辅导员)希望通过举办这样的家长讲座,帮助家长了解孩子成长过程中出现的各种现象,在不断学习中理解和支持孩子,与孩子共同成长并与学校协同合作,助力孩子的身心健康,托举孩子的美好未来。





On September 19th, the THIS counseling team invited Ms. Yang Xuchen, a psychologist and nationally certified psychological counselor, to give two lectures on the theme of ” Forming Good Habits and Communicating Effectively” to the parents of both primary and secondary parents. Ms. Yang Xuchen analyzed the difficulties and key points in parent-child relationship from the perspectives of different ages and stages of growth separately of primary and secondary students, and provided a new understanding and practical methods on how to help children establish good habits and how to build effective communication channels between parents and children. Parents were inspired and benefited from Ms. Yang’s analysis of the principles and practical cases.




Dr. Gerald Anthony (Primary School Counselor and Wellbeing Coordinator) and Ms. Laura Zhang (Secondary School Counselor) from the counseling team hope that through organizing this kind of seminar for parents, we can help parents to understand better about what occur in the process of their children’s growth, to understand and support their children in the process of growing, and to learn and improve themselves with their children. Moreover, we hope to collaborate with the parents to help their children’s physical and mental health and development and to empower them to a bright future.





讲座内容回顾




主题:习惯养成及有效沟通

Forming Good Habits and Communicating Effectively


【很多父母都会觉得孩子身上有很多“问题”需要解决,但是由于忽略了问题产生的实质以及其规律,所以“解决”起来往往困难重重。】


【Many parents feel that their children have a lot of “problems” that need to be solved, but it is often difficult to “solve” them because the essence of the problems and their patterns are overlooked.】

 

问题通过看向实质解决

The problem is solved by looking to the essence.

 

1. 从问题入手 Starting from the problem

2. 到达实质 Reaching to the essence

3. 了解规律 Understand internal laws

4. 消除问题 Solving problems

 

【谈论到孩子的身上的问题时,家长需要做的是将问题分类,哪些是必须要进行干预的,哪些可以适当放过的,哪些是需要引导的。】


What parents need to do when thinking about the problems of their children is to categorize the problems, what has to be intervened, what can be left alone appropriately, and what needs to be guided.】.

 

将问题归类 Classify problems

 

1. 必要 Necessarily

明确:边界即保护  Clear: Boundary means protection

2. 重要 Important

渐进:内在力量,克服脆弱 

Progressive: Inner power, overcoming fragility

3. 可要 Optional

自主:适当舒适区 

Empathy: Appropriate comfort zone

 

【所以在小学阶段,父母与孩子之间的沟通,最重要的主题就是帮助他们积攒内在力量,克服脆弱】

 

【The most important theme of communication between parents and children in primary school is to help them build inner strength and overcome vulnerability.


生活中常见的脆弱表现

Common Fragile Behaviors in Life

      

1. 暴躁,情绪化 Irritable, emotional

2. 容忍度低,评判 Low tolerance and always judging

3. 原则性强,张弛力不足 Strong principle and lack of flexibility

4. 妥协,总想息事宁人 Compromising, not facing the problems

5. 辩解,这不是我的错 Justifying, it’s not my fault

6. 抱怨,不愿意承担责任 Complaining and unwilling to take responsibility

 

【中学以及高中阶段,根据马斯洛的需要层次理论,与孩子的沟通不能只停留在低级的需求,要从更高级的需求出发。在思维上启发孩子,帮助孩子调整自己的身心状态,才能更好的面对压力和挑战。】


【In middle school as well as high school, according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Theory, communication with children should not stop at the lower level of needs, but start from the higher level of needs. Inspire your child in thinking and help him or her to adjust his or her physical and mental state in order to better face stress and challenges.】

 

沟通的最高层面就是最低层面。

The highest level of communication is the lowest level.

 

沟通的目标:改变身心状态。

The goal of communication: to change the state of mind and body.


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主讲人介绍


杨旭晨老师

  • 中科院儿童心理发展专业硕士

  • 国家认证心理咨询师

  • 哈佛医学院正念自我关怀体系讲师

  • 德国海灵格学校家庭系统排列师

曾于北京安定医院实习,从事心理行业工作将近十年,曾受邀在北京陈经纶学校、北京鼎石学校、北京翊帆学校、北京新英才学校、北京顺义医院、北京青鸟培训等多所学校和企业为家长及员工进行讲座,擅长将西方家庭教育的正面管教体系内容与中国传统儒家教育理念相结合,帮助广大家长找到适应当下社会环境、人文环境的恰当的教育理念和方法。擅长调整常见青少年儿童厌学辍学心理问题,矫正成瘾行为习惯,医治儿童抽动、多动、抑郁等心理疾病。

 



About the Speaker

Ms. Xuchen Yang

  • Master of Child Psychological Development from the Chinese Academy of Sciences

  • National Certified Psychological Consultant

  • Lecturer of Mindful Self-Compassion System at Harvard Medical School

  • Lecturer of Hellinger Family Constellations at Hellinger School in Germany

Practiced in Beijing Anding Hospital, working in the psychological industry for nearly ten years, Xuchen was invited to give lectures in multiple enterprises and schools, such as Beijing Chen Jinglun School, Beijing Keystone International School, Beijing Yifan International School, Beijing New Talent School, Beijing Shunyi Hospital, Beijing Qingniao Training, etc. Xuchen is an expert at combining the Positive Discipline System content of Western family education with Chinese traditional Confucian education concepts while helping parents find the appropriate educational concepts and methods that adapt to the current social and humanistic environments. Xuchen also has great experience at adjusting the psychological problems of common adolescents and children who are tired of or dropping out of school, correcting addictive behaviors and habits, and treating mental diseases such as children’s tics, hyperactivity, and depression.



让我们共同期待

未来更多的身心健康活动和家长讲座,

共同为学生的健康成长保驾护航!


Let’s look forward to

more wellbeing activities and parent Lectures in the future and work together for the growth of our students!





文字 Writing | Laura Zhang,Mercy Xu

排版 Editing | Mercy Xu

图片 Pictures | Fontaine Yang,Mercy Xu

审核 Auditing | Scott Pare, Toni Dong, Wenping Li




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